How Introverts Can Win at Networking Events Part 2
Hey, Mark Edward Lewis here. After my first article about how introverts can win at networking events at http://apps.markedwardlewis.com/Blog/ , I though it only fitting that I post something about how introverts (especially men) can win at the networking AND dating game at events. This does work with women, but you’ll need to tweak it a little so that instead of being the alpha male you become the alpha queen.
It’s pretty simple, when you think about it. Women are attracted to the “alpha male.” Well, how do you become an alpha? Simple. Have the highest status. Experts have shown us that women are, more than anything, attracted to status. Of course, the KIND of status that matters to her will vary depending on who she is and the kind of culture you’re in. However, it’s interesting to note that even men respond to the alpha ideal in networking situations and in just about every area of life. An alpha shows up, the males and females cow-tow.
Want to be an instant alpha? Try this Mark Edward Lewis idea out and see how it goes:
Walk into the club or venue and go and get yourself a drink. Easy. Then simply go around the ENTIRE ROOM and clink glasses with everyone and say, “cheers” or “good to see you” or “hey.” Do that with EVERYONE once. Then find a bunch of cute women and start chatting them up (more on how to do that in later articles). After a few minutes, ditch the babes for no reason (don’t even explain yourself…in fact try to do it while they’re talking to you…) and go around the room and do it again. You’ll find that you have more interaction with people this time. No problem. Have little conversations if you like. But definitely get to everyone again. “Cheers!”
What you’re doing is setting yourself up as a guy who “knows everyone” even though you don’t. After this trip around the venue, find some people that you ACTUALLY want to strike up a conversation with and notice how easy it is to approach them. Notice how they open their body language up to you. Why are they doing this? Because you’ve put the message out the group that you’re the top dog. You’re not afraid of anyone. You’re not threatened by anyone, because you’ve TALKED with everyone. Moreover, you’ve had no trouble chatting up a group of hot girls.
One of my friends who does this actually sits back and lets everyone come to him…which they do! Even the owner of the club usually wants to know who you are…and now the owner and you are buds. Nice.
So, the next time you’re thrust into a situation where you don’t know how or who to be, take a little Mark Edward Lewis advice and be the alpha, clink glasses, do a little chat up here and there, and see how the world responds to you…
